I am studying and working towards certification at the Adler School of Professional Coaching. The coaching model I have learned has three sides: Awareness, Choice, and Self-Trust. This triad always makes me think of the fire safety saying ”Stop, Drop, and Roll” because of the similarities: First you stop to assess your current state (on fire), then you drop before you can proceed to the next step, and then the final step is to roll, where you see the results (presumably to extinguish the fire).
You may come to coaching in order to improve performance, to increase learning, or to seek fulfillment in your life. You can achieve these things by first building awareness, which expands your choices, and then increases trust in self.
In the paragraphs that follow, you will learn about how I utilize the Adler model to help my clients to improve performance, learning, and fulfillment.
Stop: Building Awareness (pay attention)
I provide clients with tools that lead to self-discovery. It’s important to start any path towards improved performance, learning, and/or fulfillment with a clear picture of where and who you are now. You will learn who you are at your best, and what that means for your path forward.
Drop: Choice (determine your response)
We all have choices in how we respond to events and to our worlds, whether that is at work or at home with family and friends. Shit happens, and we have no control over most of it. Where the magic happens, and where we have control, is in our response. Through coaching conversations, you will become more focused on who you want to be, and how you want to respond to whatever life throws at you. As you become more aware of who you are being and who you are at your best, you will see more choices available to you.
Roll: Self-Trust (confidence in action)
With an awareness of expanded possibilities and choices, you will begin to experiment with new ways of being and responding. As you experiment, some new methods will work for you, and some won’t. Either way, you’ll build trust in yourself that you can handle anything that comes your way, even it your handling is imperfect. You can always try something different!
Bringing It All Together
Let’s say you want a promotion at work but have received feedback that you need to work on some aspects of your performance before you will be considered. You engage a coach and begin to work on your awareness of you current state and how your current performance is perceived by those whom you want to impress. As your awareness increases, you begin to explore new choices in how you perform at work. As you make new choices, you build your confidence that you can, indeed, perform at the level required for that promotion you want. As you continue to perform at higher levels, you increase awareness even further and your choices expand yet again. And so it goes, on and on.
So, next time you are faced with a challenge in life/work/relationships, remember to stop, drop, and roll. And reach out to me if you are interested in finding out what coaching can do for you.